Respect and Resilience

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Truth in mistakes

After more than 45 years of life, I have discovered or learned several truths about myself, and about being on this planet.

One of the more foundational ones involves truth itself.  That is, live in reality - that is, truth - to have peace.

Specifically:  peace of mind, peace with yourself, peace with your past, and peace with others. 

Of course, this is not always easy, or comfortable - for any of us.

Here is one example. Earlier this spring, one of our children made an error in judgement at school. It was neither the greatest nor the worst decision. But there were consequences, and after a parental discussion (actually several), our child moved beyond rationalizing to accepting and admitting the mistake.

It was not an easy or "fun" process, but it was an important one. While our conversations took longer and more energy than I might have hoped, upon reflection, our child did better than some adults I have interacted with recently. And, certainly better than I have done from time to time.

There will be more conversations like this, and more lessons to learn. And, more opportunities to grow.

Plus, the last time I checked, making mistakes is a design feature of being fully alive, and a necessary doorway to better things.